Bad Touch AND Good Touch


Touch plays a major role in one's life. No other form of communication is equal to the act of touching. It is the universal form of a healthy communication. I have heard that “nothing is so healing as the human touch” This is true. As because of the importance of touching our body is also modified as capable of feeling the touch by others. Touch is considered as the body's natural pain killers. As per the researches, there are approximately 5 million touch receptors in our skin and 3000 in each fingertip. This so interesting and jaw-dropping. 


First and foremost, What is Touch? Touch is a sign to express our feelings towards others by even not speaking or looking. So, it has the power which should not be underestimated. So, the power of touch has lots of benefits for us. There are many kinds of touching as the mother touches a baby with love, the touching of our friends to motivate and heal us, and the relatives to touch us to make us move on and so on.


From the research done for this act, We come to know that touch strengthens relationships and is a marker of closeness. Makes a bond between people stronger. Experts tells that touch can lower stress in babies, and a rub on the back can lull children to sleep. The mother who loves her babies represents her love through touching them. And hugs can make kids feel safe and the hand holding can help in times of distress.


Beyond all these advantages we experience from touching, Some scoundrels, Who tries to use the touch in an inappropriate way have now been raised. 


As we gets a lot of benefits from the growth of technology, the other side we are facing a lot of disadvantages too. Life has turned topsy-turvy. The time we spend with our beloved ones has been reduced and limited. The society and its view has been changed. 


So the division or the two categories such as good and bad have now been created. The word “Touch” which was represented as only for love and affection between us has now been changed for unnecessary activities. So nowadays it is also our responsibility to aware our kids from their younger age to understand the difference between good and bad touch. 


Good touch is the feeling which makes us comfortable and feel safe. It can be used to motivate, feel us refreshed, move us stronger and so on. Children love to be touched by their parents. They seem to be more stronger. Hugging, Parents kissing their kids with love, Shaking hands, and a pat on the back are the touches which are good and makes you feel confident. 


Talking about good touch is not only enough. On the other hand, What is bad Touch? Bad touch makes us feel uncomfortable and to leave that place rightaway. At first, Build a good relationship bond between your kids and then talk about these. The main thing is grow your child and guide him to say “No” even if they are his/her relatives too. Ask them to get away from the place where they do not feel safe. Teach your kids to identify the private parts the words like breasts, testicles, vulva, and vagina. These are not bad words. Parents should become comfortable using these terms or the corresponding words. There is nothing here to feel shy or shame as it is our responsibility to save our kids, as I mentioned before in my previous article “The Awareness”.

So when we use these words, children may think that there is something behind these so that they maybe more careful. Treat your kids the proper way and expect questions from them too. Let them to ask their doubts and clarify them as the perfect way to approach their mindset.


Even though, When they ask silly questions, don't try to be shy or don't tease or laugh at them. Without giggling just let them know the seriousness. Because nowadays many kids are abused as they have a gap, lack of knowledge, and misunderstandings.


Let them know the private parts which must not be allowed to touch by anyone.

Grow your child to communicate or tell you whatever happens to them openly. After knowing your child's problem, taking a good action by you, makes your kid more confident in you, without hesitating their words.  


This automatically will stop the kids from wrongdoing and the culprits who do all these wrong ones can be punished. It is in your hands to save every life. 


You can also practice your kids to self defense themselves or can make them experts in martial arts too. This can make your kids overcome from their own problems. 


The quote “When we avoid saying words, we instill a sense of shame, of something to be avoided or hidden.” This state can be harmful. When we teach our kids the appropriate terms we can know exactly what happened. Bad touch can be by hitting, kicking or hurting one’s body, crossing body boundaries, Unwanted sexual advances, slapping, inappropriate comments about one's clothing and body,and so on. Parents should not also force a kid to share the affection with others, if the kids do not like it. 


So, Everyone of us are responsible for our kid's future. Try to make aware our kids about good and bad touch, As because the first language, and the last and the one which always tells the truth before sight and speech is the “Touch”.